Following on from our previous blog – ‘What to say when a friend is diagnosed with cancer’, I’ve made it one step easier and drafted some little scripts to get your minds and mouths rolling.
If you are struggling to find the words to say to a mate going through a shocker - THESE ARE FOR YOU! 5 message templates/scripts to make the cancer convo a little less awkward.
1. Short and sweet
‘I’ve heard your news and I’m so sorry. Please know I’m thinking of you and sending you so much love. No need to reply.’
2. Language warning
‘Fuckity fucking fuck. There are not enough swear words in the world to describe how much this fucking sucks. I’m so fucking sorry. I'm here for you and if you ever want to go and kick walls, smash things with baseball bats, scream into pillows or throw 4-year-old tantrums – I will accompany you and clean up afterwards. No need to reply until you want me to find things to destroy.’
3. A script for the food lovers
‘I love you and I’m here for you. I have baked your favourite <insert food they love here> and will drop it at your doorstep/give it to your Mum. No need to reply’
4. A script for the do-er
‘I have heard you are going through some shit. I will pick up the kids from school/mow your lawn/grab you groceries/finish your presentation for work and coordinate this with <insert name of someone other than them>. The whole school/team/company/group are thinking of you and sending you so much love.’
5. A script for a visual person
‘I have no words that will make this better. I love you and hope this stupid picture of a <insert meme/old school photo/relevant joke/old episode of something funny> will make you smile. No need to reply.’
HOT TIP: Always add a ‘no need to reply’ on whatever message you send. Your warrior will be bombarded with messages which can be overwhelming. This gives them one less message to reply to or at least gives them permission to take their time.
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Comments
Finding things to say are so hard. This is absolutely brilliant and can’t thank you enough. You are a massive legend!
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Ps no need to reply!